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For my Mother

May 7, 2007
S. Michael Craven



Matthew Henry, the early 18th century English preacher and author of the renowned commentary that bears his name, begins his examination of Proverbs 31 with the following words:

When children are under the mother's eye, she has an opportunity of fashioning their minds aright. Those who are grown up, should often call to mind the good teaching they received when children.

This seems appropriate in light of this forthcoming Mother’s day and therefore I want ‘to call to mind the good teaching I received as a child’ and pay tribute to my mother who has been an instrument of God’s saving grace in my life.

Ours was a family torn apart by divorce when I was only 6-years-old. I know too well the destructive effects that the dissolution of the family brings. That which God intended is broken, and everyone involved suffers. Things are not as they should be and what is desperately needed is God’s restorative grace and mercy upon all involved. My mother was the instrument of this grace in my life and that of our family as a whole.

When I was 12, my mother, now remarried, was brought to faith in Christ while attending a Billy Graham Crusade and this was the visible beginning of God’s redemptive work in our family and my life personally.

I remember my mother taking me to church and constantly sharing with me the story of Jesus and what he had done for her and how his saving work on the cross was available to me. However, my adolescent years were marked by severe rebellion and generally self-destructive behavior. I, like so many children of divorce, was angry, driven by a sense of rejection and an unsatisfied longing for love and acceptance. Of course, I would qualify this by saying that my sinful anger arose out of my own unmet sense of entitlement, believing that I was first, either deserving of or somehow merited unconditional love and acceptance and second, that such love and acceptance could be satisfied through others. This misguided perception of ourselves coupled with the misplaced expectation upon others, fostered by the Fall of man, has only produced heartbreak, disappointment, and misery.

Suffice it to say that I was not responding to my mother’s entreaties to turn from my rebellious sin and call upon His mercy. I was stiff-necked and hard-hearted. In biblical terms, I was a fool! Nonetheless, my mother never relented. She never shrank from speaking the truth and she prayed for me constantly. Ironically, even when I was at my most rebellious, I knew my mother loved me and that she would never forsake me. The fact that she persisted in pressing the Gospel when I was so resistant to it confirmed this in a way that I did not fully understand, but I knew this represented a “risk” on her part. She risked losing me and yet she persisted because she knew this was the only Truth that could ever save me. She was willing to risk everything for my sake. For those mothers who are discouraged by the spiritual state of their children, take heart; I bear witness to the fact that the Lord can and does respond to the prayers of a grieving mother!

When the Lord, in His mercy, brought me to repentance and saving faith at the age of 21, my mother was the first person I called. I can still remember exactly where I was and the sense of joy at letting her know that I had been listening all those years. The Lord had heard her prayers and thankfully blessed her faithfulness. These twenty-five years later, my mother remains a spiritual mentor, wonderful friend, and precious blessing in my life who I can always count on to speak the truth in love.

My mother was the spring through which the Lord poured out His grace and mercy to me, my step-father, two sisters, two step-brothers, a brother-in-law, a sister-in-law, and at least eight grandchildren. The Lord has indeed restored “what the locusts had eaten” and what sin tried to destroy. Ours is a family of faith in which relationships have been renewed and true healing experienced. This “family of faith” will be my mother’s greatest legacy, and I pray this is so for generations to come. She has fought, and continues to fight the “good fight.” Her children, and her children’s children arise and call her blessed!

King Lemuel concludes his well-known description of the “virtuous woman” taught to him by his mother and recorded in Proverbs 31 with these words:

    Give her the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.

Mom, I am the fruit of your hands and I praise you in these “gates,” this public place where all may know of your steadfast faith and devotion. I love you and wish you the happiest of Mother’s Days!

© 2007 by S. Michael Craven
 

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Response from : Jennie Gilchrist  

May 7, 2007 9:57 AM
 

Your article is an enormous encouragement to me as my very bright 20 year old is drenched in the liberalism of the University of Texas at Austin, dismissing at this point all the truth we, our church, his Christian elementary and junior high school taught him. I won't give up
prayers for the Lord to lasso him back into the fold. Thank you!


 
Response from : Elizabeth  

May 7, 2007 10:13 AM
 

Beautiful - may your mother feel blessed this day!! Thank you for your honor for your mother.

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Response from : Don  

May 7, 2007 11:44 AM
 

Your article about your mom brought me to tears. It reminds me of my own story. My mom prayed for me when I was rebellious and was denying God, and she kept insisting on a scriptural approach even though I insisted on a secular materialist mindset. She won. I won. Praise god!

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Response from : COUSIN LAURA POPPER  

May 7, 2007 1:05 PM
 

Wow Mike - that really touched me about your mom, I didn't know that. Hope all is well for you and yours.
Love through Christ, Laura


 
Response from : Bob Allen  

May 7, 2007 5:30 PM
 

Your article, concerning your mother on mother's day touched me. Like you, I am a child of divorce, and like you I experience the same sense of rejection, anger and low self-esteem. However, unlike you, I did not have a person of faith in my life. My mother and father are alive today and I have forgiven them. But still, I have always longed for a loving, faithbased relationship.

I am a christian, I feel my stride becomming longer and longer through the lords gate. But I wish for more. More to contribute my faith, more to help others.

Thanks for your article..keep them comming!


 
Response from : joann freeborn  

May 7, 2007 11:35 PM
 

Love it when Mothers are honored. God is always good. Praise be unto God for saving your mother and for saving you so she could have the joy of knowing that you have entered into eternity. Joann


 
Response from : T.  

May 9, 2007 9:09 AM
 

Comments? Just one ... WOW! What a blessing. After reading your article it reinforced in me that I want to be that kind of Mother. Thanks for sharing.


 
Response from : Rhonda Hensley  

May 9, 2007 9:32 AM
 

Such a moving and inspirational article that offers hope for the hurting!


 
Response from : Cathy Ludwick  

May 9, 2007 12:33 PM
 

Thank you for your encouraging Mom's to keep praying for our children who have walked away from the truth.


 
Response from : Michelle Lindley  

May 9, 2007 1:20 PM
 

WOW! You're definitely her favorite now! As the "sister-in-law" I couldn't agree with you more. Good job, Mikey!

P.S. She's the first person I called when I accepted Christ too.


 
Response from : Jen  

May 10, 2007 7:45 AM
 

Thank you for sharing. Such an encouragement for mom's with a rebellious teen.


 
Response from : Karen  

May 10, 2007 10:07 AM
 

Thank you for writing this article. I am a mother and was greatly encouraged!


 
Response from : Phineas Karangwa  

May 10, 2007 1:30 PM
 

This is an encouraging article to parents who are stressed because of their children bad manners.
I am a father of a daughter 17 years, and 3 sons: 13, 11 and 6 years old. My wife and I have always been trying our best to bring them to know the Lord Jesus as their personal Saviour and Lord, but they seem to be indifferent in the whole matter. We at times feel discouraged to the point of giving up speaking to them or even praying for them. The testimony of this young man and his mother's unfading commitment to impact members of her family so strongly have revived my faith, and I am going to share with my wife about it. We need God's guidance and wisdom in upbringing our children in a christian way. We trust our Lord to do more than we can ever believe in our children's lives.
God bless everyone who has contributed something in this article.

Phineas


 
Response from : Irene Lantry  

May 11, 2007 10:15 AM
 

I wonder if the author of this article considered that without the divorce that occured when he was 6, would his mother, and thus his own life, have turned out to be one of devotion and faith in Christ?


 
Response from : michelle taylor  

May 11, 2007 11:26 AM
 

so precious! And such an encouragement to us moms of teenagers who have lots of pressures on every side. God Bless!


 
Response from : shirley  

May 12, 2007 3:22 PM
 

I cried when I read this article because I am a single mother of two teenage boys. Sometimes I feel that, because this world is so wracked by divorce, it's become such a common thing that we forget how traumatic it is for those involved. I taught my children about God even when they were in my womb and never stopped telling them of His great love for them. However, my older son is now in a stage of rebellion and it grieves my heart to see what he's doing. Your article encouraged me so much that, even though our children may rebel against what we have taught them, God's Word does not return void and we can trust Him to take care of our children and bring them around back to Him.

Thank you.


 
Response from : Ann  

May 22, 2007 2:52 PM
 

As a new mother, I hope that I will impact my daughter's life in such a positive way. That one day she will look back and know that EVERYTHING I have done and continue to do is for her! Your article is absolutely THE MOST sweetest present you could have given your mother!

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Response from : angelia plowden  

May 25, 2007 2:48 PM
 

i am a 45yr.old mother with 4 adult kids and one 4yr. old grand-daughter this article just really bless my heart, sittng here at my desk at work, this article cause my FAITH TO INCREASE.I AM A divorcee also, still not married yet. All of my kids are SAVED, except my youngest daughter i'm constantly praying for her salvation. also my daughter in law. I know sometime it get worse before it gets better, i'm a FIRM BELIEVER THAT NOTHING IS TOO HARD FOR GOD.words can not express my gratitude and thanks to you again.I look forward to the day my family and i sit down at the dinner table,talking and rejoicing in the Lord. and to all the married and single mothers KEEP THE FAITH !!!!!! Aagelia in florida

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Response from : Thea Quammie  

May 25, 2007 8:10 PM
 

Very encouraging. I am also experiencing my 25 year old daughter's growth on her own in the Lord and it is refreshing to know that my work is not in vain. Your article is a blessing to me. God bless you.
Thea Quammie


 
Response from : Joanne Miller  

June 11, 2007 4:38 AM
 

Dear Michael, Thank you for writing this article. I am a divorced mom of a son who is going through what you did. Your testimony gave me the strength to believe God for a brighter future and to continue to have compassion, patience and hope. Love In Him, Joanne Miller


 
Response from : Rosa Martinez  

May 10, 2008 12:22 PM
 

Thanks for the encouragement. Reading this article just brought confirmation on God's Word. I'm a single mother (widow) with three daughters and they are growing up. Thank you for confirming that my faith will be rewarded one day.


 

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